stay in a place that you love where you have a good job and a big opportunity for promotion, but no friends, no life outside of work, nothing except going to work, coming home, go to bed OR go back to what you have known as ‘home’ for 21 years, even though you hate it there, you have your friends, your lover, familiarity, things to do, people to do things with, same job- with no opportunity for promotion?